The Grace Episode

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We’re continuing last week’s discussion about game-changers and how overwhelming other people’s (and even our own) expectations can be when life gets thrown upside down. Now that we’ve created space for ourselves to change, we can move into a place of healing. I’ve often found that holding resentments and judgements only plunges me into greater resentments and judgements.

I don’t want to live like that, and I have a feeling that you don’t want to either. We’re all just moving along the best we can, and sometimes, 100% isn’t possible, and that’s okay.

We are so concerned with operating at our highest levels all the time that we forget there may be times when we just can’t do that. Life comes in waves of intensity and softness, and while you can’t control it, you can change how you react to yourself and those around you.

This week, I’m settling into how we can create space for those tired hearts, why it’s important to assume the best of even the “worst” people, and what to do when faced with our own game-changers.

Welcome to The Grace Episode.

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The Game-Changer Episode

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You know those times when you think that everything is going okay, and then all of a sudden your life blows up? Yeah, those are the moments when you evaluate and re-evaluate and then evaluate what you re-evaluted. That’s also when you start to question everything that you’ve believed about yourself and what you really want.

And it’s okay.

This week, I’m jumping into the deep end with why you shouldn’t be held back by other people’s judgements of your choices, what to do when your plans drastically change, and the importance of letting yourself evolve.

Welcome to The Game-Changer Episode.

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The Thrive Episode

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Aaaaaannnnnndddd, we’re back! Season 2 is officially resuming from its winter hiatus, and I could not be more excited.

As some of the excitement of the new year has faded, I think it’s a great time to remember what we hoped for ourselves even just a few weeks ago. I mean, even if it’s not the beginning of the year, we’re constantly changing the goal line for ourselves, and we need a little encouragement every now and then.

It’s easy to have dreams and then find ways, consciously or unconsciously, to sabotage those very things. Sometimes, I wonder if we even like ourselves.

So, for this episode, I’m getting serious about how we can be our own biggest obstacles, the importance of allowing ourselves to do well, and how the measure of a good life is more than just pretty pictures or a dope job.

Welcome to The Thrive Episode.

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The Now Episode

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As we end this year, I wanted to get continue the theme of mindfulness. With the new year approaching and commitments between home, family and work, there is a constant stream of “do more” and “get ready to be your best self” or even the extra strong “the best is yet to come”.

But what about right now?

How are we enjoying this moment right here and taking advantage of all that it has to bring, whether that’s rest, work or play?

Why are we always looking forward or behind for the best when it could be right in front of us?

So, for this last episode of 2018, I want to share my thoughts about the power of the present, how the best time of your life is currently happening, and why you shouldn't wait until the new year to start accomplishing goals.

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The Magic Episode

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Something special is in the air. And it’s not just the holidays.

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about magic. The kind that appears wherever you go and that makes you feel incredibly alive.

I can close my eyes and remember specific moments in time when I truly felt magic. That feeling seemed to escape me for awhile, but something has been waking up in me again. And I just couldn’t keep it to myself.

So this week, I’m getting deep into the majesty of life, how to find child-like wonder in everything you do and why when you choose to ignore the greatness of every moment, you’re only cheating yourself.

Welcome to The Magic Episode.

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The Samantha Chalmers Episode

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Hold on because in this episode we’re getting a good fill of heart, soul and some words to keep you chewing on until next week—-long after those Thanksgiving leftovers have vanished.

There have been so many conversations in the news lately, but this is one that I knew I had to have as soon as possible. Some things can’t wait.

So this week, I’m sitting down with the lovely and talented founder of J14 Marketing Strategies, Samantha Chalmers to talk about the realities of birthright citizenship for first generation immigrants like herself, the responsibility of being a representative of Indian people and culture in South Dakota, and how her roots shaped her to build her dreams and business how she sees fit.

Welcome to The Samantha Chalmers Episode.

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The Expectations Episode

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Oh, the holidays—-that wonderful time of the year where you get a helping a mashed potatoes with a side of side-eye from your grandma. Yeah, the good stuff.

When I was younger, I didn’t think much about the holidays or the stress that comes with it, but as I’ve gotten older, there are things that I dread. #1 being the questions about my life and what the heck is happening with it.

It’s hard to get past most of the conversations and the feelings of disappointment that undoubtedly come with them, but there is a small light at the end of the tunnel.

Grab a large glass of whiskey or coffee and join me as I dissolve the going-home-for-the-holidays belief that every question your family asks you is an attack, how to get out of the conversations you don’t want to have and why letting go of our expectations of ourselves is the real key to surviving the holidays.

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Baby Babe Episode #2: The Body Talk

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We’re coming in hot with my first Baby Baby guest, Callie Blount. From judgements from acquaintances about your weight to what healthy really looks like, this is the episode I needed when I was 13. Heck. I need it even now.

This is a call to abandon our unrealistic standards of what young women should look like, how to not only embrace where you’re at with your body now, but how to champion young women around you to love the unique skin they’re in, and why when given the chance, you should always go swimming off the coast of Italy. Summer body or not.

Welcome to Baby Babe Episode #2: The Body Talk.

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The Better Than That Episode

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Circling back to the Special Edition: The Shout Out Loud & Vote Episode, I’m taking this week to dive into the tone of our national social and political conversation. Midterm elections are coming to a conclusion, but nothing will be “over”. Regardless of the outcome, we need to stop pointing fingers and look at ourselves in the mirror. We’ll never see change if we believe that the state of the world is someone else’s fault.

This week, I’m putting out a call for civility, why change begins with a responsibility to ourselves and how questions are the key for understanding the other side.

Welcome to The Better Than That Episode.

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The Tribe Episode

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When I started Babe Cave, I wanted to be different than the other communities for women. A place for women to have meaningful conversations about more than just how to kill it at work or how to lose those last fews pounds. I have those conversations with my friends too, but there are so many spaces in-between, and I felt like no one was touching on those places.

Nothing is better or worse—-just different.

So many times, it seems that it’s easier to repost an inspirational quote than to sit in the darkness of deep feelings with our community. And then that begs the question of who our community really is. How do we meet them? What will it take for us to get there?

This week, I’m cracking open the truth about communities for women, how to really engage further than an Instagram post and why you need to still find your people, especially if you've been hurt before.

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The Elise Mayfield Episode

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Every creative project won’t be an instant hit or even last as long as you may have thought, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t value in the journey.

This week, I chat with my good friend Elise Mayfield about co-creating our short-lived but personally successful YouTube web series Babble & Nosh, the one thing that landed her on Season 5 of MasterChef, and how to pick yourself back up after you faint on national television.

A big theme through the episode is the idea of failure and what it really means as so often, we cling to success—-or the idea of it—-so hard that sometimes we can’t see the beauty of the process. Join us as we dive into the pressure to succeed and how to push back and embrace failure head on.

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Baby Babe Episode #1: The First Talk

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Over the past year, the one thing that continued to come up was a lot of advice I felt would have been great for my younger self—-for the younger self of all of the Cave. Which got me thinking: why are there so many resources for established woman, but not so much for the ones who are just now learning how to navigate relationships, emotions and their own bodies?

I remember sitting in bookstores in high school and pouring over self-help books. Trying to find reasons for the things I was feeling—-I had to know that someone had been there before. And while people scoff at the idea of preparing for marriage, parenthood and even life in general by reading books or even seeking expert advice, I am not one of those people. Why would I not be open to hearing the mistakes of other people, so I don’t waste time?

And why now, would I not want to pass the things I and others have learned onto the next generation? In so many ways, I felt that so many of the women in my life had an attitude of, “you’ll figure it out because I had to”, and that’s so unfortunate.

So, I want to be the person I needed when I was younger. I want to connect young women to a resource that help them start conversations not only amongst themselves, but with parents, teachers and mentors. Sometimes, it takes a different voice, be it that of a big sister or auntie, to break the ice, and I’m more than happy to be that person.

Welcome to Baby Babe Episode #1: The First Talk.

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